So, You Want a Blogging Tip…

Damn, Girl has been growing a bit fast. OK, scary fast.

My little three-month-old blog is reaching toward fifteen hundred followers and tens of thousands of views. Companies are starting to contact me about promoting their shit. Every blogger’s dream, right?

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But I am not writing this to brag. I am writing this because I’ve been getting dozens of emails asking for blogging tips… And apparently “day drinking” isn’t cutting it

So let me try and muster something better: Let’s start by knocking off that “I feel bad for promoting myself” shit.

I could tell you to “post pretty pictures” and “be patient” but those tips are everywhere and they are a lot easier than what you actually have to learn how to do:

As a blogger, you need to get comfortable with needing things. More than that, you need to get comfortable asking for those things that you need.

So… you need things?

So, you want to be heard, and have a sense of community, and share, and learn, and maybe even make some Satan paper? I mean money?

You mean you have expenses and dreams and goals and you are trying to accomplish those things? You mean you’re just like me and everybody else?

Damn, girl, you are just going to need to make peace with that.

What’s with the shame?

I get why you may feel tentative to ask for things like “views” and “monies” and “community support.” Unfortunately, there are places where the message seems to be:

“Promote, Promote, Promote! (But not here, you scheming trollop!) Reach! Succeed! Power poses! Power Poses While You Sleep! (But, like, stop spamming, ok?)”

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I get where that hesitation to self promote comes from. It’s a strangely vulnerable thing to admit that you aren’t a completely self sufficient island, isn’t it? Starting out is difficult. Sharing your innermost thoughts with strangers who could reject you is difficult. Asking to be heard, asking for community, and asking for money… well, that takes a whole new level of bravery. 

The thing is: getting comfortable asking for things is the first step towards building a community. And successful blogs are about nothing if not community.

When you are here, at Damn, Girl, Get Your Shit Together, it’s ok to promote yourself.

 There is no scarcity in my house. When you ask for community, when you ask to be heard, when you ask for money, all I see is your bravery. When you are here, it’s ok to need things. Please use Damn, Girl as your launching pad. Use it to practice promoting yourself. What I am saying is: for the love of god, drop your links at the end of a comment. You’re safe here!

All Aboard!

Still feeling shit about promoting yourself? Ok, I’ll take the first step:

Things are taking off for DGGYST and I’ve decided I’m taking you with me. I am featuring eight blogs a month in my sidebar. Check them out! (See how easy that was?) These are blogs I love to read; they make me laugh, or cry or think. I’m changing these out every month; you may find yourself buttoned soon!

Read those blogs, comment on them, follow them. Want to build faster? You ambition thing! If someone leaves a awesome comment down below that speaks to you, go play with them! Soon we will have a bitchin’ army and a super-powerful community!


DGGYST Asks: Pick your favorite Damn, Girl post and share it on Facebook! ‘Cause I need things too.

466 thoughts on “So, You Want a Blogging Tip…

  1. I love this. Mostly cause I always find it hard to even share my thoughts in the first place…worse if its complete strangers who might judge and ridicule you😂😂 But yeah! Let’s have a friggin army! Im in🙌🙌🙌

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  2. I’ve been reading your blog since a month in and I’m always so inspired by your progress (hell, you inspired me to completely restart A Sweet and Delicate Thing and turn it into something I love and am proud of now)… But lemme tell ya:

    “When you are here, at Damn, Girl, Get Your Shit Together, it’s ok to promote yourself; there is no scarcity in my house. When you ask for community, when you ask to be heard, when you ask for money, all I see is your bravery. When you are here, it’s ok to need things. Please use Damn, Girl as your launching pad. Use it to practice promoting yourself. What I am saying is: for the love of god, drop your links at the end of a comment. You’re safe here!”

    That was literally so sweet to read. It feels like when most bloggers want to promote people, it’s the same ole same ole. And I love you for it; I love you for a lot of things- including your no-nonsense humor and honesty.

    So in the interest of shameless self promotion, have some fancy french toast! https://yeslittlehummingbird.wordpress.com/2017/11/29/french-toast/ I hope you’ll enjoy it as much as I enjoyed coming up with it ❤

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  3. I’m hesitant to ask for follows or self-promote only because I feel like my blog is kinda random. It’s a mix of sharing personal stuff, sometimes raving about topics that occasionally pop in my head, and doing writing challenges. I’ve been at this for a year and I still find myself scratching my head like, how can people actually want to read my crazy words? lol

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    1. I feel the same way as you! I deactivated my facebook account so I only promote with Instagram and some times Snapchat and just hope that someone likes it enough to share. I don’t fake things either, but I have found a few that are like me! I ask my friends to help promote me but everyone has priorities and although our friends want us to succeed they don’t want us to succeed more than them. That’s what I’ve learned anyway! 🙂

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  4. After I hit 50 followers on my blog it’s like no one is reading my post anymore, and I’m barely getting any views. Besides self promotion, any tips on how to grow my following and boost my views? Thanks! thetalesofateenagebrunette.wordpress.com

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  5. Thank you for this! Sometimes I find it difficult to even ask my own BOYFRIEND to read my blog. The only people I feel comfortable asking to repost for me are my parents! So yeah, thank you so inspiring me to grow some balls. I also want to compliment you because I found your blog by doing what I “should” do and trying to connect with bloggers but I actually really dig yours for real, not just as my own greedy marketing ploy.

    That being said, here IS my own greedy marketing ploy. I’d love if you read my blog “A Comedian’s Guide To Enlightenment.” I’m a comedian who is trying to maneuver the path of enlightenment when it isn’t always easy. Here are a few of my favorites ( brave gulp as I share.)
    https://acomediansguidetoenlightenment.com/2017/12/22/beauty-or-the-beast/
    https://acomediansguidetoenlightenment.com/2017/09/05/day-6-the-one-where-people-really-test-me/
    https://acomediansguidetoenlightenment.com/2017/09/06/day-7-the-one-where-i-try-something-scary/

    Thank you!!

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  6. Wow, my blog doesn’t get nearly the traffic yours does!! That is just amazing! Congratulations to you!! I admit, when I started, it was not to get to the point where I had a large following. It was more personal, for me. Now that I am taking humane education classes, and have realized what some of my passions are, I want to share those with others. Thank you very much for having read my blog and subscribed to it.

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  7. I always love your vibe girl!! Thank you for that bit of inspiration and congrats on being a #superblogbabe
    Now I just need to get my shit together real quick here…I need help!!! 🙂 My blog isn’t growing nearly as much as I’d like it to:-( Got to admit tho, I have been hiding in the closet at first, but I’m ready to come out now, I’m ready to share…So this is me promoting me on orders from DGGYST.
    Love you huney!!
    https://chanty007.wordpress.com/

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  8. I think I came here from Sim’s blog.
    The idea of featuring your favorites in the sidebar is a really great idea. I’m going through a turbulent time in my life right now, so don’t have much (any) time for playing around with ideas, but I might come back to it at a later time and employ something similar.
    My site: dailyflabbergast.wordpress.com if anyone is interested.

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