The Skinny Confidential

Lauryn Evarts, The Skinny Confidential

Here at Damn, Girl, I talk a lot about taking risks and asking others for the things that you need.

And I follow my own advice… mostly.

I get anxiety about pursuing the things that truly matter to me, just like every other creative.

While I am sure this is true for every person, I feel there is a larger stigma for women when it comes to pursuing their goals with the direct, relentless passion it takes to actually get shit done.

This is in part due to to the fact that in order to achieve our goals, we need to ask for support. We are made to feel that by asking for support, we are admitting our lives are not perfect. And there is nothing if not a great pressure to make our lives seem perfect.

Not just perfect, but completely self-achieved. Like we are some glorious island that has its own oil, the best mangos in the world, and a thriving, self-sustaining economy. We have entire platforms for this illusion: they’re called WordPress, Instagram, and Pinterest.

Don’t get me wrong; I love stalking celebrities’ sandwiches on Instagram as much as the next person, but the popularity of the “perfect life illusion” kept me from even considering blogging or talking about my experiences at all. They just weren’t that shiny.

That’s when I read The Skinny Confidential.

Lauryn Evarts was seemingly the same: perfectly blonde, fit, put together, drinking rosé in France and glowing for some damn reason (seriously, how the hell do you all just glow? Is there some switch I don’t know about? Is that what nipples are actually for? Have I been using them wrong?).

But then I came across a post of hers called “I Hate You Anxiety” and for the first time, I saw one of these perfect people talking about something real. I continued reading her blog. She dished on jaw swelling, constipation, all the nasty stuff that I thought never touched these people.

The more I read, the more I grew to love her voice. Lauryn was sweet, she loved and supported women, she talked about real things. It was The Skinny Confidential that inspired me to start this blog.

I knew that I wanted Lauryn in my corner, so I decided to take my own advice and reach out to her. To ask for the support that I needed.

Sure, I had some wine first. Psyched myself up. Waited for the inevitable “Please do not contact me, loser” message I was sure to get at any moment.

Turns out asking for the things that I needed turned out to be ok. Lauryn was sweet and supportive and was kind enough to pass on her blogging tips to the readers here at Damn, Girl. So tuck in, and enjoy some tips from the master:

Q1: You’ve built a successful business out of blogging, did you always want to be a blogger? How did you come up with the idea for The Skinny Confidential?

The idea for The Skinny Confidential came about when I was attending San Diego State University. I was incredibly frustrated by the lack of healthy food options on campus… and I was BORED. At the time I was going to school full-time, working days & nights, and teaching reformer Pilates and Pure Barre. Also, I was on a major budget.

So I started modifying all of my meals & the rest is history.

I would take off one side of the bread in a sandwich or swap lettuce for spinach, sweeten coffee with cinnamon, make taco salads, you get it. Then one day I sort of had a lightbulb moment and thought, “why not share my tips and tricks with other women? There’s 20,000 women on campus, they need these tricks too! And shit, I want their tips.”

Since then, The Skinny Confidential has evolved from a fitness and health blog to a community for women all over the world to come & SPILL their tips & tricks. It’s a source of inspiration for women. The Skinny Confidential is also a book, a podcast, and soon to be product line.

Q2: What kind of info are women getting when they visit TSC?

Anything & everything! The more taboo the better, HA! One day I’ll share a healthy 1 minute recipe, the next we’ll talk home decor, and then another day BAM! A post on yeast infections! The content sort of varies but it’s always TSC branded.

Ultimately I like to get REAL real. A little sassy too.

Q3: What are your top easy fitness tips?

Workouts should be effective, not time consuming. I created TSC Bombshell Body Guide which integrates barre, yoga, Pilates, and your favorite personal trainer all into one. It’s 27 minutes, I’m dead sore after, and I can do it anywhere. Really ANYWHERE. In a hotel room, at the beach, in my office, etc. I shoot for three times a week.

You need cardio. Not a lot, but you need it regularly. Intervals are huge for fat burning. I shoot for 3 to 4 times a week.

I love a good Pilates class — huge Pilates fan. Also, yoga once in awhile is always good for the psyche.

Q4: Favorite quick/easy recipe?

Easy, the TSC 3 Ingredient Pancakes. I am also obsessed with TSC Detox Drink; I drink it every morning.

Q5: Tell us about your journey from blog to book. What inspired you to go from online to also in print?

Since I get a lot of questions from readers, I thought it would be fun to put all of my tips in one place, in print, so women could have a coffee table book and refer to the chapters at any time. A lot of the info in the book is not found on the blog.

Q6: What can we expect to read in “The Skinny Confidential: A Babes Sexy Sassy Fitness and Lifestyle Guide?

Even though the content is fresh, it’s a lot like my blog. Kind of everything & anything. You’ll find recipes, personal stories, makeup tips, relationship advice ( like how to avoid the “Love Chub” ), easy/quick workouts, hair secrets, TONS of pictures, and more.

Q7: Which chapter did you have the most fun writing?

Definitely the chapter on my relationship. It was fun and something a lot of girls can relate to: LOVE CHUB. The guy can eat whatever he wants usually and as women we want to keep up! That’s love chub. I write about how to avoid it!

Q8: You just had a super intimate wedding in Cabo. Tell us about it.

Michael & I were engaged for 4 years before we tied the knot. We invited our closest friends & family to Cabo for a 4 day wedding celebration.

Q9: Between the blog, staying fit, your husband, dogs, managing a social life, the list goes on and on, how do you manage it all? Do you have any tips for women that wish there were more hours in the day?

I make things quick and easy in any way I can. For instance, I use the 27 minute workouts in TSC Bombshell Body Guide — a lot of my recipes take 5 to 10 minutes to make. Quick, easy, painless.

As far as balancing it all? I recommend LISTS. Stick to them. I also set goals for myself & make sure to meet them. Balance is discipline & discipline is difficult. If it were easy though, everyone would do it. Discipline can really take you places if it’s utilized correctly.

My ultimate advice: start small, think big.

Q10: What’s the single most important thing you’ve learned from building a successful blog empire?

Anything that’s truly worth it takes time & patience. Success takes time. Business takes time. Relationships take time. Building anything takes time.

Time is your friend.

I launched my brand over 5 years ago. I have blogged and worked on it every single day, 7 days a week. Again, discipline is key.

Q11: What are you working on now? Any books or special projects we should be looking out for?

I’m constantly adding new content to TSC Bombshell Body Guide and Membership. We’re currently working on an ANTI-INFLAMMATORY meal plan, which I can’t wait to share with everyone.

Michael & I are having a blast recording our weekly podcast: The Skinny Confidential: HIM AND HER. We answer business and relationship questions from readers and just shoot the shit. It’s been so much fun to work on a new medium. Podcasting is something we are very focused on right now. Big plans to come.

Also, possibly another book & a product line are in the works. Stay tuned!

In the meantime, you can find some major realness on The Skinny Confidential.

Lauryn’s Social Media:

The Skinny Confidential
TSC Book
Bombshell Body Guide
Snapchat UN: @laurynevarts
Facebook
Instagram
YouTube
Twitter
Podcast


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83 thoughts on “The Skinny Confidential

  1. I love Lauryn and TSC, she’s one of the most honest and real bloggers out there, especially when discussing her surgeries. Lauryn has been through so much yet come out not only on top, but building a stairway for the rest of us.
    A great read, thank you xx

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    1. Bry! So for some reason, your site kicked my little DG off it’s comment section and I have been trying to figure out how to get back on to comment! I’m so glad you feel the same way that I do about Lauryn!

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      1. I think I feel in love with you. Ok ok settle down, I’m just still overly emotional from all the female hormones. What I am trying to say (without my usual drama) Is that it is fucking awesome that you are willing to help someone else out. I see you promote and help people all the time (you’ve even done it for me)

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  2. Great tips and info… thank you for sharing! By the way… I was seriously laughing out loud (during a work meeting), when I read:
    “glowing for some damn reason (seriously, how the hell do you all just glow? Is there some switch I don’t know about? Is that what nipples are actually for? Have I been using them wrong?).”

    Literally dead…. As always, I enjoy reading your posts!

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  3. This came at the perfect time. I’m starting another blog that is more “professional” I guess, since it’s wordpress.org not .com, and am nervous and unsure of the direction/focus still, but hey, there were some pretty great cyber monday deals so I jumped on that and am not looking back! I love how understanding you are about the pressure and fear of pursuing something that matters to me and how I need others’ support, so reading about your own feelings and lauryn’s on blogging is really great, thanks!

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  4. Anxiety… She’s such a bitch. My #1 passion is advocating for women to be the strong, smart, powerful, and yes, beautiful human beings we are. I’m so glad you took the leap and started your blog!

    Before this, I had never heard of TSC, which is surprising because I feel like I’m always perusing for blogs written my women like Lauryn, so thank you for sharing!

    https://dontcountmeoutyet.wordpress.com/

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  5. Lmao @ “and also Tom”! 😂😂😂

    Yours is one of the first blogs I followed when I became WP active, and there have been no regrets! This is a simply awesome forum for *anyone* to get their shit together, or simply share in the antics of DG Weekly, and now Insomnia Girl, too. Thank you for allowing me to be a part of it (and to kill spiders!)

    Keep rockin’. I’m gonna go check out the rest of your sidebar, and get to know the other awesome bloggers (not also named Tom)! 😉

    http://www.tombeingtom.com/

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    1. Tom! Thank you so much! I couldn’t love your blog anymore than I do. You are always challenging yourself, asking the big questions, the little questions, and you are so good to the womens! ❤❤❤

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  6. What I love about you more than anything is how you support women supporting each other. That you support support. You support me via your comments on my posts.

    I just started reading a book by Amanda Palmer called The Art of Asking (which I think would be right up your alley). In the forword, I read the words “I spent most of my life trying to create a safe distance between me and anything that felt uncertain anyone who could possibly hurt me.” Those words totally resonate with me. We need to build each other up, especially as women!, and realize that connecting is not the enemy. Not only is it beneficial for everybody in a “business” sense, but coming together is the key to compassion. I truly believe that it feeds our souls. I think it makes us all happier:) simply put.

    💜💜💜

    Thanks for introducing TSC – I’m going to have to check her out!!

    http://www.hashtagpanic.com

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  7. I love seeing all these successful blogging women who have turned it into a career.

    You are so very right about getting anxiety over things you want to pursue. I’m trying to go back to college at 30 — the thought of being rejected makes me get the bubble guts. Hell if I do, I might cry a bit. It’s the thought of failure. It’s the reason why I have two unpainted canvasses hanging out and a bunch of crochet projects. It’s the reason nothing seems to get done — fear of failure.

    And seeing women, hell any person, work toward something and not quit because they’re afraid or anxious they’re going to fail is amazing to me.

    Thanks for sharing Lauryn’s blog. I’m definitely going to start following. 🙂

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    1. Coralanne! 1.) Gorgeous name 2.) thank you so much for this comment. Fear of failure is one I think we can all identify with! I love the idea of going back to college a bit later, when you are mature a wise lol

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      1. Thank you!

        I think if I could do my 20’s over, I wouldn’t have dicked around so much in college, and actually would have gotten a degree worth something.

        Definitely going to do it right this time 😉

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  8. I cannot tell you how proud of you I am for having the courage to reach out and ask her for advice. You have inspired me with this post. God, I have such a hard time asking for help, but of course, I should be because I fucking need it. You have helped me in ways I couldn’t have even imagined, and I am so thankful for it. It’s proof that there are people out there who are genuine and do want me to succeed. Going to think about this post and figure out what I really want to accomplish and do with my life. Thanks for the nudge I needed! You just make shit happen, girl, and that is what I need to start doing!

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    1. Tanya! I can not wait to hear about your trip and promise to be right by your side the next time you are in a thousand mile radius! Maybe its for the best you have a hard time asking for help, because everything about you already makes me want to give you the shirt off my back, and if you started weilding that power, you would be like a supervillian! haha!

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      1. Thank you, darlin! This comment reminds me why we are getting married. (Sorry I know that’s a secret!) I fucking love you and you make me laugh like a total spazz. You better believe that the next time I am close to your neck of the woods, we are getting together!

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  9. Yay for a new post! Never heard of TSC, but I love your gumption to ask for what you need. I’ve found that people really are willing to help you if you just ask (politely and professionally of course). Let me go send these emails asking for what I need.

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      1. It would be more like we are having coffee together and I drank both your coffees (Which let’s be honest, is probably more what it would actually be like) Haha! you’ve made my week!

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  10. I hope you know how much you have helped so many people and encouraged them to ask for help. It is because of you that I am thinking about making some really bit and positive changes with my blog; your blog and your writing are so alive and so real and you inspire me to want to be the same. You really are totally fucking kick ass!!!!!!!

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      1. I started my blog so long ago, using a theme that is so outdated; I think it needs a total visual revamp, no pun intended. I am also going to start a website and make a facebook page just for my blog, but it is all a bit daunting. Like my brain, my writing and the life if it are all over the place. If you have any suggestions, I would love to hear them; you can email me any time. And, there’s me asking for some advice……. not something I readily do, but you are teaching me the value of it.

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  11. I get anxiety about pursuing the things that truly matter to me, just like every other creative. ————- What great truth! I am not a blogger really, I just write things or segments from what I write offline and share. —— But how I also long for support, some kind of mentor even if you want to call it that. ——- And also after a couple of glasses of wine and sometimes some darn cigarettes I kicked long ago, I reached out. And I did get mostly Nothing – concerning my photography. Not even a reply. So on I go. —- On local pages which are supposed to be inspirational and supportive I mostly get torn apart because I don’t compromise in my work, and I am sorry, I am not good in new born photography which everyone these days with a digital seems to jump on. Don’t get me wrong, there is beautiful work being done. Being military makes us move every three years. Picking up the pieces, starting all new, where finally you built a clientele- it’s gone again, and there it repeats itself over and over again. So your article resonates deep, because YES, we have to get our shit together. Over and over again alone, and try to excel – also alone – and so very much hoping for others who maybe read your stuff, see your photography or your paintings, and maybe after a glass of wine or two try to reach out to you – so you can do better, and be better, and write back: Heck yeah ! I am here!

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    1. Winter you are so beautiful all the time 😢 it’s so hard having to relocate when want to build something meaningful. Thank you so much for this comment, for your supper, and your online space, which I enjoy and love so much

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  12. Either the internet hates me or your post has proven so popular it’s overwhelming TSC’s website because I can’t get the links to work, but I’ll be back to check them out again later!

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  13. This post really hits home for me because one of my biggest personal goals is to reach out to others and collaborate, seek support, and share ideas. Fear is definitely a factor in so many of the decisions that we make, and don’t make. I so admire you and what you represent and it’s beautiful to hear that you were also inspired by someone else. TSC is doing so much of what I plan to do, so being reminded that it can be done is encouraging. I loved the bit about discipline. Thanks for sharing this important part of your personal journey. Tons of love, Lyz.

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  14. I loved this post! Makes me so happy to see bloggers who are still willing to talk about real things! There’s nothing better then finding out everyone isn’t perfect and that real shit happens to everyone. Loved this interview too! I’ll have to check out her blog too! Thanks girl!

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  15. Damn girl, this was so inspiring!! Ugh! Inspiring and intimidating haha! I’ve officially realized my F-rated rants will get me nowhere in life as far as “business” goes because bitching doesn’t get the bills paid! That’s part of the reason I think I’ve slowed down but I’m gonna keep going because ranting sets my goddamn soul on fire! LOL who needs a Third source of extra income anyways?! (Actually, I do!) lol I’ve been doing so much soul searching though seriously. Thank you for this, as usual… thank you for being YOU. You’re my hero. I wish I had so much help and advice to offer the world like you do girl you’re just BOMB. 🤗🤗🤗😍😍😍😘😘😘😘😘 hugsssss and kisses!!!!!!

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