The Power of Female Economy

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“There’s a special place in hell for women who don’t help each other.”
-Madeleine Albright

If you have been following my blog for a while you know that I am a businesswoman. You also know that I was raised in the foster care system, that I ran away from home, and was a homeless teen.

I have experienced a level of poverty you would not think was possible in a first world country. I have lived in abandoned buildings in downtown Detroit and have feared for my life from things like exposure and starvation.

I have broken into cars to steal change to get my dinner from a vending machine. I have eaten from the garbage. I have been bound to horrible situations for the lack of financial independence. I have been dominated and violated and I have stayed in these situations…for a sandwich or a cold piece of pizza or for a warm place to sleep.

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Needless to say I feel very powerfully about my right to support me and mine, and I feel very passionately about women having the right to support themselves and theirs.

You don’t need to feel sorry for me. I’m 29 and have so many commas in my bank account it would make your head spin. I have gone about acquiring stability in my life the same way I am making a living off of this blog: by unapologetically accepting that I need money and viciously defending my right to make it.

Money is power

It’s safe to say I am a bit obsessed with power: getting it, keeping it, and spreading it.

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So today I wanted to delve into girl power. How to turn your belief that girls should have power into actively giving them that power. And by power, I mean money.

We’ve all heard the phrase “money is power.” It’s time to start wielding it.

Why female economy?

49.5 percent of the population is female and within that massive minority are a hundred other subsets of underrepresented, underpaid minorities. Black women, Hispanic women, gay women, that one black, gay, handicapped woman who likes the show “Everybody Loves Raymond.” Oh, I see you!

Women have always been financially shortchanged (see what I did there? Eh? Eh?) and continue to be so. Chances are if you are reading this, you can identify a time in which you found yourself financially dominated. Be it a marriage, a job, or a living arrangement you have been unwittingly stuck in due to a financially titled environment, empowering female economy can lessen and prevent so many bad situations women find themselves in. Our money can make a difference. Here’s how:

How do I support female economy?

1. Fashion.

I’m not one of those people who are crippled by the overall implications of every decision that I make. I’ve pretty much accepted that I am a small cog in the machine of unstoppable evil.

But once I accepted that I can do some good without having to change my name to Harvest and start wearing skirts made of wheat, I started investigating where my money did the most good, and the most bad.

Fashion fit the bill.

Before I buy anything new, I take a quick look through my Poshmark app to see if any of my ladies are selling it. If I can get it on Poshmark, a lady dominated marketplace, I throw my money at them with glee.

I don’t have to think about the sweatshop children and the underpaid employees and the landfills filling with last season’s rompers, while at the same time knowing that another woman is getting a little bit more power than she previously had.

2. Blogging

I love blogging as an economy. What an amazing way to line the pockets of women! The ability to support women of color, women with anxiety and depression, women with mental and physical illnesses, cancer, stay at home mommas, artists, poets… the list on. But how do we give female bloggers real power?

First, by changing our attitudes.

There is this toxic unnecessary view when it comes to bloggers making money. Whether trashed for self promotion, using ad space, or accused of being “sellouts,” it’s everywhere, and it’s nonsense. Female writers are being shamed for their Patreon buttons, their affiliate links, their freaking Etsy stores.

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Your fellow writers are not increasing the cost of AIDS medication by 1000 percent and taking hush money to filter some extra lead into the drinking water. You don’t know those people, you will not ever see or interact with these people. All those people who do heinous evil shit for money wouldn’t have anything to do with me or you.

The blogger making a thousand bucks a month selling her bomb-ass necklaces on Etsy is not a checkered-suit-wearing, swindling dirtbag. She’s nice, she makes some jewelry, she calls her mom, she waters her plants. You would really like her.

We like to demonize the other people who are down here on the same level with us, and I don’t fucking like it. Changing your feelings about online economy is the first step.

Second, by prioritizing women online.

If am buying a bulk order of toilet paper, you better believe some fellow female blogger is getting some percent of that. My Christmas shopping is done on your blogs. You come first when it comes to the money I spend online, and I’m not afraid to say it.

Start re-appropriating big bad tools of the trade

Our big obnoxious hearts are keeping us from using some really successful strategies.

There are a lot of concepts that have a nasty stigma that in and of themselves are not bad. They are strategies and concepts wielded by wealthy men that leave our gentle female souls put off. Things like self promotion, target marketing, and the big one: Quid Pro Quo.

Quid pro quo, this for that, the one that leaves you feeling quid pro queasy. The ultimate sleazy maneuver.

Why is it mostly women who are so uncomfortable with this concept? Maybe it’s the expectation that we should do things while asking nothing in return? Why? Because as women, we do things out of the kindness of our hearts.

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This is such a terrible manipulation.

You can still have a kind heart, and have fair and equal exchanges. You want to buoy some female economy? Start talking to the other women! Combine evil forces! You promote this, I’ll promote that. You pay me this, I’ll do that. Damn, girl, get your shit together and start expecting some this for some that.

On that note, check out this month’s Awesome Female Bloggers in the sidebar and let DGGYST know if you want your blog featured. Leave your comments down below, drop your links, and share your favorite Damn, Girl post on Facebook. Because that’s reciprocity, baby.

120 thoughts on “The Power of Female Economy

  1. This post is SO fucking on point. As a 55+ gal, I’m no longer so scardey-crow about putting myself out there, showing how much I AM worth, and getting the recognition I deserve.

    And for helping a gal out … there is a former co=worker I keep up with that has been able to MAKE A LIVING with her jewelry. I just emailed her yesterday (hand to God) and asked if I had her permission to promote her jewelry on my blog. She said yes enthusiastically, and I will be creating a link to her sites as a permanent fixture on the sidebar of my blog very soon.

    I’m truly grateful for ladies like you who have come from nothing (poverty, abuse, all that other bad shit) to not only succeed, but to pay it forward and help the rest of us succeed as well. Well done, luv!

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    1. Thank you for sharing this. It is a great reminder that we can and SHOULD make money using our own creativity and gifts. I also think it’s inspiring what you were able to overcome. So what was my previously comfortable living ass’s excuse? Fear? Self worth issues? I recently was laid off from work (a job I hated), so I’m in a slightly uncomfortable time. But I really believe that this is my time to start over and make money doing what I LOVE. A lot has to do with my own thinking, though, and getting that crazy OUT!

      Here are some blogs I wrote about getting laid off:

      And changing how I think and pray:

      I would love to be featured on your site, and have started sharing yours! Either way, thank you for keeping me inspired!

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  2. I really enjoyed reading all the comments left here & stopping by the blogs of those who left their links. With that being said I would love to invite all who are interested to my February Blog Party at There is already a few Readers mingling & just waiting to view your wonderful blogs. I am really looking forward to the engagements & reading your blogs as well. With Great Love & Respect! Ms. Flo

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  3. Thank you so much for sharing this unbelievably amazing post! I am pretty good at promoting and supporting all the fantastic ladies that I follow! I think strength comes from great support! I think it is crazy that in 2018 it still feels like a mans world. All of us ladies are so amazing and we should be recognized more.
    You my dear have lived quite the life but all your experiences have made you so strong and wise. You are inspiring and admirable in so many ways.
    If I didn’t already add you on Facebook I definitely will.
    I absolutely love reading all of your postsvabd feel like I relate to them so 5.
    Sending you lots of love♡Alyssa ♡

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  4. Freaking awesome post!! One of my favorites of yours so far.
    And kudos to you for your achievements!! I firmly believe that adversity has two effects…either to keep a person down or to create incredible strengt!!! I’d love to see when it has created incredible strength!

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  5. I feel so empowered right now that I feel like I can lift a 15 story building! I mean sure, it’s hard out here for a pimp lol but in all seriousness, I’m totally with you. I feel so much better uplifting my fellow sisters that I almost feel hesitant to promote myself.

    In honor of speaking things into existence, I’m in the process of looking for a new job. I have my heart set on this agency called The James Agency which was, yep, you guessed it, founded by a woman. And she’s a TOTAL BOSS BITCH. Bad ass through and through. I want to surround myself and work alongside women like that. Blogging is no different. Thank you for sharing this incredible post and for continuing to support me. You make me feel so seen and heard and it has meant the world to me as I’m going through tough times. Stay golden ❤

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  6. It’s funny this popped up for me to
    Read and it’s exactly what has been on my mind. I’m changing my mindset too, in little ways and big ways. I am going to small family owned restaurants, and I’m trying to be more Cognizant of buying from people (as opposed to Amazon) where I can. There’s plenty of room for Growth there. It’s just retraining myself into a different mindset. As
    Far as blogging: I see now if I’m
    Not getting traffic, it’s because I’m
    Either not writing (oops) or I’m
    Not giving traffic. I feel like we tend to get into traps of “no one does ___ for me” without “what have I done for someone else”. To your point tho, women do tend to give til it hurts and struggle to say okay now me too. I think it is keeping yourself first. And when I say first, it’s not selfish, nor does it actually mean someone else is second. It means that anything anyone ever does is always to
    Benefit themselves. We all gotta just be honest about that! Even if you’re doing it “for God”…that’s still getting you to heaven. Not to get philosophical, but I already did, I find I am happiest when I’m helping other people, so I don’t need to worry about what I get back. I know it’s time for me to get my shit together and really focus on my blog bc I know I can do it.

    I think when we’re all honest, most women are in their own way with unworthiness. And you hit the nail in the head, we gotta put ourselves out there, take care of ourselves and take care of
    Each other. And in order to get there, you gotta think “I
    Can do this” not wait for people to convince you that you can.

    Love you girl. Keep the good shit coming!


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